Meg:

I loved your story... and loved that you kept it very person to your experience. I have been thinking recently about how society should support young kids (pre-puberty) regarding this issue. I worry that focusing much on the issue before their sexuality is even clear to themselves is not helpful. Still the issue of not fitting in and feeling wrong can be damaging too.

Is it sufficient for us as a society to acknowledge that: biological sex, attraction to others, and self-identification are three different aspects of a person that lie on a spectrum and may or may not line up?

It seems to me that one should be framing things such that young kids know that people differ on this and that it takes many years to really figure out where each person fits in might be the right messaging? Not sure. It just feels that in today's society these splits become hardened separations, and that itself can cause angst.

what are your thoughts?