Many responses here don’t seem so supportive of you.

My take is you are right to feel betrayed. It is one thing for your mom to day, yo daughter, this is hard, and if you really want this, you need to be cooking it. It is another thing to actively deceive you.

Smart move to bite your tongue… as it was 22 years ago.

Truth should matter. Trust should matter. Don’t do that to your daughter.